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프롤로그│갈등, 피할 순 없어도 상처는 받지 마라························004 1장 누가 갈등 유발자인가? 첫번째 사례│생계를 책임지지 못하는 가장 ······························014 두번째 사례│군림하려는 남편, 인정 못하는 아내 ·························018 세번째 사례│부부간 성적(性的) 트러블 메이커····························023 네번째 사례│지긋지긋한 잔소리 여왕···································027 다섯번째 사례│은근히 갑질하는 장인장모································031 여섯번째 사례│패륜행위도 서슴지 않는 자식들···························035 일곱번째 사례│도와주려는 형, 절대 안 된다는 형수·······················039 여덟번째 사례│며느리 노릇은 제대로, 사위 노릇은 멋대로인 남편···········043 아홉번째 사례│뻔뻔한 거짓말쟁이 남편··································046 열번째 사례│지나친 간섭, 도넘은 관심왕································052 열한번째 사례│의부증 아내, 의처증 남편 ································058 열두번째 사례│정서적?육체적 폭력 가해자······························062 열세번째 사례│따돌림시키는 가족······································068 2장 모든 갈등은 본분을 다하지 못하는 데서 비롯된다 이 시대의 삼강오륜, 육본············································074 본분을 다하지 못하는 것이 갈등을 부른다·····························078 가장·주부로서의 본분을 다하지 못할 때······························086 남편·아내로서의 본분을 다하지 못할 때······························091 차이를 인정하고 존중하지 않을 때···································094 부모로서의 본분을 다하지 못할 때···································103 정신적·육체적으로 건강하지 못할 때································109 아들·딸로서의 본분을 다하지 못할 때································117 부모 부양의 의무를 다하지 못할 때···································123 사위·며느리로서의 본분을 다하지 못할 때····························127 형제로서의 본분을 다하지 못할 때···································132 3장 내가 변해야 매듭이 풀린다 신의 한 수를 둬야 한다 ·············································138 결혼 전 미리 알았더라면 좋았을 것을·································146 모든 갈등에는 징후가 있다··········································152 갈등은 대화로 푼다고?··············································161 갈등 유발자는 쉽게 변하지 않는다···································166 매듭을 풀려면 내가 먼저 변해야 한다·································173 생각, 말, 행동을 다르게 하라········································176 어떻게 하면 공감을 잘 이끌어낼 수 있을까?···························188 기버·매처가 돼라··················································193 함께 어울리는 시간을 가져라········································199 4장 갈등은 있어도 상처는 없다 용서받지 못할 사람들···············································204 비워야 할 것, 버려야 할 것··········································215 그래도 돌아오는 게 상처뿐이라면?···································224 그래도 없는 것보다는 있는 것이 낫다·································232 졸혼도 길이다·····················································239 이혼, 그리고 내려놔야 할 것들·······································248 에필로그│가족보다 소중한 것은 없다 ··································261 부록 1│결혼할 만한 남자 알아보는 꿀팁································265 부록 2│결혼할 만한 여자 알아보는 꿀팁································275

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